Rule 1: Do not live to satisfy the expectations of others.
Rule 2: No matter what has occurred in your life up to this point, it should have no bearing at all on how you live from now on. That you, living here and now, are the ones who determine your own life.
Rule 3: If you change, those around you will change too. Instead of waiting for others to change or waiting for the situation to change, you take the first step forward yourself.
Rule 4: Life is not a competition. It's enough to just keep moving in a forward direction, without competing with anyone. And of course, there is no need to compare oneself with others.
Rule 5: When we try to change our lifestyle, we put our great courage to the test. There is the anxiety generated by changing and the disappointment attendant to not changing.
Rule 6: When receiving praise becomes one's goal, one is choosing a way of living that is in line with another person's system of values.
Rule 7: All you can do with regard to your life is choose the best path that you believe in. On the other hand, what kind of judgements do other people pass on that choice? That's the task of other people, and is not a matter you can do anything about.
Rule 8: Admitting is a good attitude. But don't forget, it's basically impossible to not get hurt in your relations with other people. When you enter into interpersonal relationships, it is inevitable that to a greater or lesser extent you will get hurt and you will hurt someone too. Adler says, to get rid of one's problems, all one can do is live in the universe all alone, which is not possible.
Rule 9: Desire for recognition makes you dependent.
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